I got the nicest letter recently and can’t wait for you to read it. This is from the sweetheart of one of our Level 1 Pole~ah~Tease students. It’s only occasionally that we get to hear about the effects of our pole classes from the “boy’s perspective,” and this mister is a gem – he completely “gets” what we are doing here. He had contacted me for help with a surprise for his lady and we got chatting via e-mail. He gave me his enthusiastic permission to share, so read on:
Pole~ah~Tease, From a Man’s Perspective:
I think what you are doing over there at Express MiE is not teaching women how to act sexy or even how to be sexy. I think that what you’re really doing is showing them that they were already sexy to begin with and peeling back the illusion that sexy has something to do with what you look like.
Part One: My wife had her second class yesterday and she cannot stop talking about how much she LOVES your classes! She thanked me yesterday for “letting” her take them which made me chuckle a little. I don’t know why she thought she needed my permission to begin with. I think my wife looks great (especially for having 3 children in the last 4 years) and I would have never suggested she take them just because I think it could be taken wrong. I’d never want her to think that I was unhappy with her body or thought that she needed to improve herself in some way. I am glad that she thought of it though because she has a low self image and I’m always complimenting her and letting her know how beautiful I think she is but she doesn’t always take me seriously though because I’m her husband and I’m supposed to say nice things about her. So for her to get positive reinforcement from someone else and especially to hear it coming from other women is just awesome. She loves the teacher she has too and has said to me that she likes how they teach and work with her. She has never been the most coordinated or the most athletic (she is brilliantly intelligent though which is super sexy) and I was a little worried about how she would feel about doing technical dance work in front of other people. She just keeps telling me how great the teachers are and how patient and willing they are to work with her and how much that aspect of it helps her to be more confident and encourages her to try harder. That I think is really the key to these classes, the confidence. The sexy dancing part is nice and showing off a beautiful body through dance is great but secondary to learning to be confident in yourself the way you are. I’ve told her before that sexy should not be measured by how nice your body looks or by how well you use it. Sure a nice body can be a sexy thing but I think that confidence is by far THE sexiest trait that a woman can have.
I already told her that I don’t want to see any moves that she’s learned until she’d finished with her full 6 week course and that’s mainly because I know that the more classes that she’s taken the more confident she will be in herself when she decides to open up and show what she’s learned. Based on what she’s told me so far I am already confident that she will be a much better person having taken this class and although it may look on the outside like she’s taking a class to learn how to be more sexy for her husband what she’s really learning is how to better appreciate herself and how to be happy with who she is as a person. I think what you are doing over there at Express MiE is not teaching women how to act sexy or even how to be sexy. I think that what you’re really doing is showing them that they were already sexy to begin with and peeling back the illusion that sexy has something to do with what you look like.
Well I said all that to say thanks for the info and for the philosophy that you operate by. I think it’s great and I feel like you are innovators that are helping to re-educate people on what it really means to be sexy one woman at a time. I hope the word spreads and that more women are able to learn the truth and more importantly that men can learn it too.
My response: Awe, thank you SO much! Express MiE is truly a center for the development of self confidence in others. And, it warms my heart like nobody’s business to hear that you can feel the effects of what I have worked so hard to create. You absolutely “get” exactly how things work and have such a terrific perspective – she is super fortunate to have such an awesome partner. Beauty absolutely is from the inside out and confidence is a blessing like none other. And, I agree, I wish the experience for every woman! I went on my own journey to find confidence in my sensuality almost 10 years ago, and when I figured it out I just had to share.
You have no idea how the timing of this note has made me smile. Whenever I get to see that the passion and work I have (and the ladies who work for me do such a terrific job carrying out) helping other people it re-inspires me greatly. Thank you so much!! Do you mind if I share your note in my newsletter or on my website to help other women?
The most incredible part is that I’ve noticed a difference in my wife’s confidence and outlook after only two classes
Part Two: If you would like to use my note in part or in whole you have my permission to post on your website or in print form or however you see fit. I meant every word. You really have a good reason to be proud of what you are doing and you certainly have gained a customer for life. The most incredible part is that I’ve noticed a difference in my wife’s confidence and outlook after only two classes!!!! That’s what probably blows me away the most is that I can see the difference already and like you said it’s not about dance. I mean, I’m noticing this difference and I haven’t even seen my wife do a single dance move yet. She hasn’t discussed with me anything pertaining to the dance part of the class except to say that she would like a pole to practice on. Everything that she has said to me pertained to how the instructors made her feel about herself, how excited she was for the next class and how much she absolutely loved it. All in the span of two classes.
Thanks again Christie, I am so glad that she can get out there and enjoy herself and her excitement is contagious. It’s great to know that you were able to find your own inner beauty and confidence and that you were willing to share it with others. You are an awesome woman and please let me know if you need anything at all.
Mister Awesome* (not his real name, but rather fitting, don’t you think?) ;>
How very cool, huh? I sure love Express MiE and appreciate all the awesome women who work here who are committed to helping others gain confidence through all the fun styles of dance we offer. Seriously, working out has never been so much fun or had so much heart. :) Thanks for letting me share!